Wines with a forward flavor have brighter, fruitier flavors.
Softer wines have a mellower range of flavors and aromas.
The best way to find out is simply sample many different varietals and kinds of wine: red, white, sweet, dry, dessert, and so forth.
You should consider asking a tasting room employee at a local winery, as they are well versed in helping locate specific ranges of wines for their clients, and will be sure to help find a wine that appeals to you. Not only that, they are friendly, and will gladly share their knowledge with you, something not always possible in other settings.